My honest advice to someone who feels behind in life

My honest advice to someone who feels behind in life

Introduction (00:00:00)

  • The YouTuber had a conversation with a friend who felt she was falling behind in life.
  • They spent an hour discussing a step-by-step method to improve her life.
  • The YouTuber received positive feedback from her friend about the value of their conversation.
  • The YouTuber clarifies that they are not a therapist and focuses on providing practical advice for a brighter future rather than delving into the past.
  • The first step is to identify the specific areas in life where one feels behind.
  • It could be related to career, relationships, health, or personal growth.
  • Pinpointing the exact issues helps in understanding the scope of the problem.
  • Once the problems are identified, set realistic and achievable goals.
  • Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps.
  • Having a clear plan and milestones makes the journey seem less daunting.
  • Start taking action towards achieving the set goals.
  • Consistency is key, even if the progress is slow.
  • Celebrate small victories along the way to maintain motivation.
  • Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or mentors.
  • Learning from the experiences and advice of others can provide valuable insights.
  • Joining support groups or online communities can offer a sense of belonging and encouragement.
  • Be kind to yourself and avoid self-criticism.
  • Progress takes time, so be patient with yourself.
  • Focus on self-improvement rather than comparing yourself to others.
  • The YouTuber emphasizes that everyone's journey is unique and there's no one-size-fits-all solution.
  • The key is to take action, stay consistent, and never give up on improving oneself.
  • By following these strategies, one can overcome the feeling of being behind in life and live a more fulfilling life.

The Ideal Day (00:01:18)

  • To assist a friend who felt behind in life, the speaker had a conversation with her to envision and create a detailed schedule for her ideal day, considering her preferences and realistic habits.
  • The friend realized that her ideal day was achievable and gained clarity on her life goals.
  • The speaker identified excessive social media scrolling as a hindrance to the friend's ideal day and recommended downloading an app called Opal to block distracting apps during specific hours.
  • The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking immediate action and avoiding procrastination when making positive changes, such as following the two-minute rule and creating systems and nudges that encourage desired behaviors and discourage unwanted ones.
  • Continuous learning and progress are essential for a sense of fulfillment, and online learning platforms like Skillshare offer thousands of classes led by industry professionals.
  • Establishing a daily routine can help create a sense of structure and progress.

The Ideal Week (00:07:25)

  • Create an ideal daily and weekly schedule that is feasible within your current life circumstances.
  • Having a compelling vision of the future can help you feel like life is worth living.
  • It can be hard to think about the future when you feel stuck, but the daily and weekly exercise can help you imagine your dream week.
  • Crafting an ideal week can help you realize what you want to do and what is possible.
  • Comparing your current state to your ideal week helps you identify the path you need to take to achieve your goals.

Start Where You Are. (00:10:39)

  • Accept your current circumstances without judgment.
  • Recognize that unhappiness in current circumstances likely follows to ideal circumstances.
  • The stories we tell ourselves about our circumstances, not the circumstances themselves, cause misery.
  • Accept your current situation as the starting point for improvement without feeling guilt or shame.
  • Guilt and shame are burdens that weigh us down on our journey to improvement.
  • Enjoy the journey of improvement rather than focusing solely on the destination.
  • Identify the specific areas in your life that you want to improve.
  • Set realistic and achievable goals for each area of improvement.
  • Create a plan of action for each goal, breaking it down into smaller, manageable steps.
  • Take consistent action towards your goals, even if it's just a little bit each day.
  • Celebrate your progress along the way, no matter how small.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help or support from others when you need it.
  • Remember that change takes time and effort, but it is possible to achieve your goals if you stay committed.

Action Steps (00:14:19)

  • Small actions can create momentum and help you move forward in life, especially if you're feeling below baseline.
  • Start with small steps to build confidence and self-efficacy, and avoid overwhelming yourself with big changes.
  • Focus on one small and one big action step that you can take right now or this week to move forward.
  • Identify a keystone habit, such as changing into workout clothes after work, that can have a positive impact on multiple areas of your life.
  • Create extra space for yourself in the morning by waking up earlier to engage in self-care or work on personal projects.
  • Take care of yourself by eating healthier, and consider using a weekly delivery service for healthy packaged meals.
  • Journaling prompts can be helpful in figuring out what to do with your life and setting long-term goals.

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