My honest advice to someone who feels behind in life

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Introduction (00:00:00)

The YouTuber had a conversation with a friend who felt she was falling behind in life.
They spent an hour discussing a step-by-step method to improve her life.
The YouTuber received positive feedback from her friend about the value of their conversation.
The YouTuber clarifies that they are not a therapist and focuses on providing practical advice for a brighter future rather than delving into the past.
The first step is to identify the specific areas in life where one feels behind.
It could be related to career, relationships, health, or personal growth.
Pinpointing the exact issues helps in understanding the scope of the problem.
Once the problems are identified, set realistic and achievable goals.
Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps.
Having a clear plan and milestones makes the journey seem less daunting.
Start taking action towards achieving the set goals.
Consistency is key, even if the progress is slow.
Celebrate small victories along the way to maintain motivation.
Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or mentors.
Learning from the experiences and advice of others can provide valuable insights.
Joining support groups or online communities can offer a sense of belonging and encouragement.
Be kind to yourself and avoid self-criticism.
Progress takes time, so be patient with yourself.
Focus on self-improvement rather than comparing yourself to others.
The YouTuber emphasizes that everyone's journey is unique and there's no one-size-fits-all solution.
The key is to take action, stay consistent, and never give up on improving oneself.
By following these strategies, one can overcome the feeling of being behind in life and live a more fulfilling life.

The Ideal Day (00:01:18)

To assist a friend who felt behind in life, the speaker had a conversation with her to envision and create a detailed schedule for her ideal day, considering her preferences and realistic habits.
The friend realized that her ideal day was achievable and gained clarity on her life goals.
The speaker identified excessive social media scrolling as a hindrance to the friend's ideal day and recommended downloading an app called Opal to block distracting apps during specific hours.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking immediate action and avoiding procrastination when making positive changes, such as following the two-minute rule and creating systems and nudges that encourage desired behaviors and discourage unwanted ones.
Continuous learning and progress are essential for a sense of fulfillment, and online learning platforms like Skillshare offer thousands of classes led by industry professionals.
Establishing a daily routine can help create a sense of structure and progress.

The Ideal Week (00:07:25)

Create an ideal daily and weekly schedule that is feasible within your current life circumstances.
Having a compelling vision of the future can help you feel like life is worth living.
It can be hard to think about the future when you feel stuck, but the daily and weekly exercise can help you imagine your dream week.
Crafting an ideal week can help you realize what you want to do and what is possible.
Comparing your current state to your ideal week helps you identify the path you need to take to achieve your goals.

Start Where You Are. (00:10:39)

Accept your current circumstances without judgment.
Recognize that unhappiness in current circumstances likely follows to ideal circumstances.
The stories we tell ourselves about our circumstances, not the circumstances themselves, cause misery.
Accept your current situation as the starting point for improvement without feeling guilt or shame.
Guilt and shame are burdens that weigh us down on our journey to improvement.
Enjoy the journey of improvement rather than focusing solely on the destination.
Identify the specific areas in your life that you want to improve.
Set realistic and achievable goals for each area of improvement.
Create a plan of action for each goal, breaking it down into smaller, manageable steps.
Take consistent action towards your goals, even if it's just a little bit each day.
Celebrate your progress along the way, no matter how small.
Don't be afraid to ask for help or support from others when you need it.
Remember that change takes time and effort, but it is possible to achieve your goals if you stay committed.

Action Steps (00:14:19)

Small actions can create momentum and help you move forward in life, especially if you're feeling below baseline.
Start with small steps to build confidence and self-efficacy, and avoid overwhelming yourself with big changes.
Focus on one small and one big action step that you can take right now or this week to move forward.
Identify a keystone habit, such as changing into workout clothes after work, that can have a positive impact on multiple areas of your life.
Create extra space for yourself in the morning by waking up earlier to engage in self-care or work on personal projects.
Take care of yourself by eating healthier, and consider using a weekly delivery service for healthy packaged meals.
Journaling prompts can be helpful in figuring out what to do with your life and setting long-term goals.