Why Does The World Not Care About Men’s Mental Health? - George TheTinMen

New Study About Guy Nights (00:00:00)

• A study by Robin Dunbar suggests that men need two "guy nights" per week for their mental health, sparking discussions on social media.
• Critics argue that women deserve more time alone and that men already have many privileges, leading to resistance and criticism of the concept.
• Male loneliness and isolation are significant factors in male suicide, but critics often view male suffering as self-inflicted due to toxic masculinity or the patriarchy.
• The lack of male spaces, such as male-only gatherings and youth clubs, negatively impacts society, contributing to increased knife crime as boys and men seek alternative groups like gangs.
• Fatherlessness and the absence of male role models in schools and media further exacerbate the problem of male isolation.

What Do Women Think Guys Are Doing Together? (00:06:00)

• Men's mental health is often overlooked due to a lack of understanding of male friendships and topics discussed among men.
• The destruction of male spaces has affected men at all levels, including the loss of traditional male-dominated positions of power and the lack of support for men's issues.
• International Men's Day has not received the same recognition as other international days, despite the need to address the issues that quietly harm men and boys throughout their lives.
• There is a need for spaces, both online and physical, where men can openly discuss their concerns and challenges.

Explaining ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy?’ Facebook Groups (00:11:35)

• The "Are We Dating the Same Guy?" phenomenon, which began as private Facebook groups for women to discuss dating experiences, has evolved into a toxic environment where personal information, photos, and names of men are shared, leading to doxing, humiliation, and threats to men's safety.
• The groups have expanded beyond their original purpose and now include discussions about husbands and long-term partners, with some women sharing tactics to track and spy on their partners.
• Despite the negative impact on men's mental health, including suicides and a case of murder, Facebook has been slow to take action against these groups.
• Similar groups exist on Reddit, such as "The Pink Pill" and "Female Dating Strategy," which promote misandry and dehumanize men.

The Path to Becoming a Female Incel (00:16:30)

• Women who become incels have different experiences compared to men.
• There is a lack of research on the causes of female incels.
• Identifying risk factors can help prevent people from becoming incels.
• People should not be seen as static end points, but rather as products of their life experiences.
• Incels are often misunderstood and misrepresented.
• Black incels receive more compassion and understanding compared to white incels.
• Women in incel groups have likely had negative experiences with men.
• People should not view men as static end points, but consider their experiences and backgrounds.
• The extreme form of the men's mental health crisis is the incel problem.
• To be a true mental health advocate, one must be willing to discuss men's mental health issues without dehumanizing them and show compassion.

Women Bragging About Abusing Men (00:20:19)

• Men are less likely to publicly defend other men who have had their nudes leaked, while women are more likely to defend women in similar situations.
• Men tend to have a sense of respect for their partners' bodies and sex, especially in long-term relationships.
• Women are more likely to openly discuss their sexual experiences and their partners' bodies, while men are more reserved in these discussions.
• The double standard in discussing men's and women's bodies can contribute to toxic behaviors such as female dating strategies and gossip culture.

The Advantage Women Have Over Men (00:29:09)

• Women have an advantage over men in terms of emotional and linguistic abilities.
• Women's emotional abilities and coalitional relational aggression give them strength in small groups, similar to men's physical power.
• Women are a generation ahead of men in innovating within language, giving them an advantage in communication and persuasion.
• Women have more soft power in everyday decision-making, making about 13 out of 15 major decisions in a normal person's life.
• Women's dominance in the linguistic and relational realm is often overlooked.
• Relational aggression among girls, especially with the rise of social media, is leading to a significant increase in suicide rates among young girls.
• The inability to view women as anything other than pure and perfect prevents other women from accusing female perpetrators of meanness.

Hollywood’s Damaging Portrayal of Women (00:33:13)

• Modern movies often portray female protagonists as perfect and without flaws, creating a narrow and unrealistic representation of women.
• This trend in media contributes to the decline of Marvel and creates a gap in the market for more realistic and relatable female characters.
• The constant portrayal of women as victims in legal and political systems undermines their autonomy and denies their ability to make choices.
• The legal and political systems often erase men's mental health issues.

The Strange Laws Around Female Sexual Assault (00:37:40)

• The current definition of rape excludes the possibility of women perpetrating rape, leading to misleading statistics on sexual violence. In the US, the CDC changed the definition of rape to be gender-neutral, resulting in a significant increase in reported rapes of men by women. Rape involves more than just physical force and includes psychological and emotional pressure, such as coercion and threats.
• Despite efforts by politicians, the UK has yet to change its laws to make the definition of rape gender-neutral. This has resulted in a large number of men who have been raped by women being underrepresented in statistics.
• The rarity of male rape convictions suggests that male-to-female rape is practically legal due to the low prosecution and conviction rates.
• Men's mental health is often overlooked and not taken as seriously as women's mental health. This is due to societal expectations and fear of being seen as weak, which discourages men from seeking help for mental health issues.
• The issue of male sexual assault is often overlooked and not taken seriously, despite evidence suggesting that violence against men is a significant problem.
• Domestic violence is not solely a gendered issue, as both men and women can be perpetrators. Bilateral abuse, where both partners engage in abusive behavior, needs to be recognized and addressed. There are multiple causes of domestic violence, not just male power and control.
• Focusing on the gender of the perpetrator rather than the severity of the violence suggests a lack of genuine concern for victims of violence. Domestic violence is not predominantly men victimizing men, but rather a complex issue that requires attention regardless of the gender dynamics involved.

What Are We Misunderstanding About Domestic Violence? (00:47:20)

• Male suicides resulting from domestic violence are significantly higher than female suicides, yet they receive less attention.
• Parental alienation, where one parent turns a child against the other, is a form of abuse that can lead to suicides and needs to be addressed.
• The impacts of male domestic violence are often more visible and damaging due to men's physical strength, leading to a skewed perception of the problem.
• High-profile cases of male domestic violence, such as the UFC fighter who brutalized his ex-partner, highlight the severity of the issue.
• Men's mental health is often overlooked and not taken as seriously as women's mental health.
• Violence is reciprocal and generational, and it's important to address both sides of the equation to break the cycle of violence.
• Society needs to talk more about violence against men and address the issue of men's mental health.

Do Men Have Reproductive Rights? (00:55:10)

• Men have fewer reproductive rights than women and are legally obligated to provide financial support for children they do not want.
• There is no legal mechanism for men to voluntarily surrender their parental rights and responsibilities, despite support for this idea from some feminists.
• Forcing men to be fathers against their will can have negative consequences, similar to those caused by unwanted pregnancies for women.
• Men should have more choices in reproductive and parental decisions, including the presumption of joint child custody and equal rights for unmarried fathers.
• Family courts often exhibit systemic sexism against men, as seen in the experiences of fathers involved in custody battles.

Responding to Billie Eilish’s Comments About Men (01:01:54)

• Men experience significant criticism for their bodies, particularly regarding height, hairlines, facial hair, and penis size, leading to increased self-consciousness and body dysmorphia.
• Some men undergo dangerous and expensive surgeries to alleviate body insecurities, highlighting the severity of the issue.
• Male body dysmorphia is on the rise and may surpass female body dysmorphia in the future, indicating a growing mental health crisis among men.
• Men's mental health is often overlooked due to societal expectations of work and financial success, while women have stronger social networks and family connections.
• The pursuit of success and money alone does not guarantee happiness for men, and women should not sacrifice their existing support systems to follow men's traditional path, as it can lead to misery later in life.

Men Are Facing Higher Discrimination Than Women (01:07:34)

• A study revealed that men now face more hiring discrimination than women in female-dominated industries, while the bias against women in male-dominated fields has diminished or even reversed.
• The general public and academics often have inaccurate perceptions of hiring bias, overlooking the discrimination men face in spaces like playgrounds and changing rooms.
• Despite expectations for men to take equal responsibility for childcare, they are not granted equal respect or rights, and the focus on female child abusers and sensationalized media stories perpetuates discrimination against men in childcare settings.
• The media's emphasis on negative news about men distorts reality, creating fear and reinforcing harmful stereotypes, despite the fact that the vast majority of men are not violent criminals.
• The current metrics used to measure gender equality, such as the number of billionaires, are narrow and fail to address broader aspects of equality, including education, health, and life expectancy.

Placing Female Victimhood on a Pedestal (01:16:38)

• Sarah Everard's case highlighted Gamma bias, where certain aspects of maleness are emphasized, such as perpetration and violence.
• The focus on violence against women led to excessive politicization and overshadowed acts of male heroism and sacrifice, such as a man who died trying to save a woman who attempted suicide.
• This skewed perspective creates a negative and warped view of society, perpetuating the gender divide.
• Data suggests that women are not judged more harshly than men for their sexual history, especially in long-term relationships.
• In short-term relationships, there is a double standard against men, who are treated more harshly for their sexual history.
• Studies, including one with 2,000 Norwegian men and four additional global studies, show that the idea of women being shamed more for their sexual history is not supported by data.
• Men and women are treated similarly, if not more harshly for men, in terms of sexual history judgment.
• The notion of women being shamed more is often based on anecdotal evidence and not supported by data.

What the Right is Telling Men (01:20:00)

• The left often overlooks men's issues, while the right tends to view gender as solely biological and disregards the impact of socialization.
• The right's solution of reinforcing traditional masculinity is impractical in modern society.
• Men should explore diverse sources of purpose and meaning beyond conventional archetypes.
• The right sometimes addresses men's issues indirectly, such as opposing trans-affirming surgery for minors while ignoring the similar issue of unnecessary circumcision performed on minors for ideological reasons.
• Circumcision, a widespread practice that removes a significant portion of the penis's nerve endings and can cause long-term problems, is rarely scrutinized or discussed.

Sexual Assault in Male Prisons (01:28:20)

• Sexual assault in male prisons is a significant issue that is often overlooked.
• Over 900,000 cases of sexual assault have been reported in American prisons, with many more likely unreported.
• The right often advocates for safety in prisons when it comes to trans women but ignores the widespread sexual violence against men in male prisons.
• Male disposability refers to the phenomenon where men and boys suffering against men and boys is not seen as important as towards women and girls.
• Some right-wing pundits argue that men's safety is not important because women have greater reproductive value than men.
• This argument is based on the idea that men can repopulate a tribe even if most of them die, while women cannot.
• However, this argument is outdated and does not consider modern technology and advancements that have changed the way humans live.
• Humans have the ability to surpass nature and overcome the limitations of our biology.

The Disposability of Men (01:32:46)

• The kidnapping of 273 Nigerian girls by Boko Haram in 2014 received significant global attention, while the subsequent abduction of 10,000 Nigerian boys received little notice, highlighting the issue of male disposability.
• The UK government's proposal to send British prisoners abroad, with the suggestion from feminist MP Jess Phillips to prioritize sending only men, overlooks the shared experiences of abuse and trauma between male and female prisoners.
• Media coverage of conflicts and protests, such as the Iranian protests and the situation in Gaza, often focuses on women and children as victims, neglecting the significant number of men and boys who are also affected.
• Bisexual men face biphobia, including accusations of being secretly gay or dirty, even from women who advocate for gender equality and inclusivity.

The Current State of Men’s Advocacy (01:39:48)

• Men's and boys' advocacy is still in its early stages of adoption, similar to the third wave manosphere or holistic manhood movements.
• The diffusion of innovation theory suggests that an idea becomes viral when it reaches a "Tipping Point" where 16% of people have adopted it.
• Men's and boys' advocacy faces a branding identity crisis, with many people viewing it negatively despite compelling evidence of the disadvantages faced by men and boys.
• Men's mental health issues are often overlooked and stigmatized, and addressing them does not diminish the importance of women's issues.
• Inclusive discourse about men and boys is necessary to address the full scope of gender-related problems, even if it involves acknowledging uncomfortable truths.

Will There Be a Minister for Men? (01:48:07)

• There has been a positive shift in public perception, with increasing support for a Minister for Men in the UK.
• Politicking, where politicians prioritize their own interests over the well-being of their constituents, often leads to disingenuous politicians.
• Women's dominance in voter turnout influences politicians to focus more on women's issues.
• To effect change, it is necessary to demand action from MPs by writing to them.
• Despite challenges, efforts are being made to raise awareness about men's mental health and well-being.
• Men's mental health is often overlooked and not taken seriously, requiring more awareness raising campaigns.
• Individuals need to speak out and share their experiences to break the stigma surrounding men's mental health.

Where to Find George (01:53:04)

• George is on Instagram under the handle "thetinmen".
• He is trying to get off the screen and meet his audience in person.
• More information about this will be available soon on Instagram.