130. Best Of: How to Maintain a Powerful Presence in Your Communication | Think Fast, Talk...

130. Best Of: How to Maintain a Powerful Presence in Your Communication | Think Fast, Talk...

Introduction (00:00:00)

Defining Power and Status (00:01:31)

  • Jeff Feffer defines power as the ability to get things done despite opposition.
  • Feffer's class on power and status is popular because he provides practical advice on achieving goals in challenging situations.
  • Feffer believes that people appreciate honesty and truthfulness in communication.

Nonverbal & Verbal Behaviors to Communicate Power (00:02:45)

  • Avoid tilting your head, looking down, hunching over, and constricting your body.
  • Maintain eye contact, stand up straight, use expansive postures, and use forceful gestures.
  • Be big, balanced, and still to demonstrate presence.
  • Speak loudly, be moderately impolite, and interrupt others.
  • Avoid being interrupted.
  • Use simple, forceful, and vivid language.
  • Keep your answers direct and simple.
  • Filler words and words of hesitation can weaken your communication and make you appear less powerful.
  • Avoid using filler words and words of hesitation such as "kind of" and "sort of".

Emotion and Power (00:05:46)

  • Avoid filler words and speak fluently.
  • Display strong emotions like anger to convey power and get results.
  • Passion, conviction, and confidence are contagious.
  • Use strong language and body language to display confidence.
  • Avoid hedging language and be passionate about what you're saying.
  • Strong emotions can drive non-verbal and verbal behavior.

Virtual Communication (00:09:11)

  • Dress and show up the way you want people to perceive you.
  • Take up half the screen and avoid sitting too far away during virtual communication.
  • People read a lot on faces, so ensure your face is visible and well-lit.

Communicating Across Power Levels (00:10:55)

  • When communicating with someone of higher status or power, ensure your message is concise and direct.
  • Lead with the most important part of your message.
  • Show up in a way that demonstrates you should be taken seriously.
  • Consider your body language and spoken language.

Tailoring Messages with Flattery (00:12:06)

  • Flatter the person you are communicating with.
  • Research suggests that there is no such thing as too much flattery.
  • Show them how much you admire and respect them.
  • Express your happiness to be in their presence.

The Importance of ‘Warming Up’ (00:13:33)

  • Warming up before communication is crucial for a powerful presence.
  • Warm-up includes getting your voice and body ready, as well as calming yourself.
  • Many people focus on what they're saying but neglect preparing their bodies, minds, and voices.
  • Virtual communication offers advantages as you can warm up without being seen.

The Final Three Questions (00:16:33)

  • The final three questions are:
    • Who is a communicator that you admire and why?
    • What are the first three ingredients that go into a successful communication recipe?
    • Tell me a little bit more about forcefulness.

Conclusion and Appreciation (00:19:20)

  • The podcast host thanks Jeff for his detailed advice and guidance.
  • The host encourages listeners to sit up straighter, talk louder, and be more forceful to have a strong presence.
  • The host mentions other episodes and resources on power and status.
  • The host invites listeners to subscribe, rate, and follow the podcast on various platforms.

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