How society has stopped us having sex | Jessica Lorimer | TEDxKingstonUponThames

How society has stopped us having sex | Jessica Lorimer | TEDxKingstonUponThames

Sex in Media and Society

  • Sex is commonly used as a marketing strategy in various industries, including cigarettes, films, and television shows.
  • Despite the prevalence of sexual content in media, couples are having less sex and fewer are satisfied with their sex lives.
  • Societal norms and stereotypes about sex, reinforced through media and sex education, contribute to the decline in sexual satisfaction.

Sex Education and Communication

  • Sex education often focuses on biology and reproduction, neglecting communication and emotional aspects of sex.
  • Gender stereotypes portray sex differently for men and women, perpetuating harmful ideas about sexual behavior.
  • Pornography provides an unrealistic portrayal of sex and reinforces the idea that communication and connection are not necessary for sexual pleasure.
  • The lack of open communication about sex leads individuals to rely on media and pornography for guidance, which can result in unrealistic expectations and dissatisfaction in real-life relationships.

Importance of Sex and Communication

  • Sex is important for overall well-being, including physical and mental health, as well as job satisfaction and productivity.
  • Despite its importance, talking about sex with one's partner can be awkward and uncomfortable.
  • Practicalities are key when discussing sex, as they help set a scope and prevent overcomplicating or being overwhelmed.
  • Using blame language or accusatory statements can be detrimental to the conversation, while open questions, active listening, and "we" focus language can lead to more positive outcomes.
  • Regularly reviewing and agreeing upon outcomes is essential for making progress and improving one's sex life.
  • The ability to communicate effectively about sex can be applied to other areas of life, leading to better communication skills overall.

Teaching the Next Generation

  • It is important to teach the next generation how to communicate effectively about sex, emphasizing its importance in relationships and promoting healthy attitudes and behaviors.

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