The Art of True Connection | Don Carter | TEDxWalnut Street

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Don Carter's Perspective on Inclusion and Belonging

Don Carter, a former police detective turned entrepreneur, speaker, writer, and transformational coach, shares his unique perspective on inclusion and belonging.
Carter describes a transformative experience during his law enforcement career when he realized the impact of his conditioning and early experiences on his self-perception.
He criticizes the concept of inclusion, arguing that it can feel confining and restrictive rather than liberating.
Carter emphasizes the importance of human connection and belonging and warns against tokenism, where people are included only to fulfill a diversity quota.
True inclusion should be seen as a unique and valuable aspect, like inclusions in diamonds.

Carter highlights the power of kindness and how a small act of kindness towards a woman who wanted to become a nurse led to a viral fundraising campaign that raised $155,000.
Kindness is not just about actions, but also about recognizing and connecting with others.
The most valuable asset is attention, and where attention goes, energy flows.
The art of true connection involves acceptance of self, receptivity of reciprocity, and transparency.
Acceptance of self is essential for fully accepting others.
Receptivity of reciprocity ensures a balanced flow of giving and receiving.
Transparency allows for genuine connection without the risk of harm.
Kindness and showing kindness in the world can create real connections and actions.
Paying it forward or giving back is not necessary; paying attention is the most valuable thing one can offer.
Giving attention in a meaningful way can create transformative connections for both the giver and the recipient.